Some people believe extramarital affairs are common and often avoid discussing them. However, engaging in an affair outside of marriage can have long-term effects on both your partner and your emotional well-being. Temptations may be hard to resist, but is there a way to avoid them?
After salvaging many marriages from an extra marital affairs (EMA), Dr. Trupti Patel Chaudhari, MBBS(KEM,Mumbai), DPM(Pune), Psychiatrist and Relationship Expert at Vama Wellness Center for Women shares how couples can avoid happening it in first place.
Be happy yourself:
A lot of couples may never fight or look compatible but are sad inside due to some other factor of their life. An affair sometimes works as an antidepressant which is too high a price for your marriage, children and yourself. It is better to accept about your depressed mental state and appropriately deal with it by seeing a counselor or psychiatrist.
Have best friend/s:
It is said a stitch in time saves nine. Friends, especially of the same gender, serve as a shock absorber for small differences in marriages. Not having them around makes us depend too much on one’s spouse for emotional intimacy, time or empathy and may seem suffocating or burdensome to some.
Help grow together:
In a marriage where you are not inventing your own self or helping your partner explore his/her new side, things soon become boring and one tends to get attracted to others for some change. Help yourself as well as your spouse see themselves in a new light.
More action than talk:
After some initial years of marriage partners start taking each other for granted. A lot of time is spent on arguing about gridlock problems or fighting about petty issues. It’s the time to focus on action ranging from small caring gestures to large exciting adventures. For every negative, compensate by 5 positive actions to keep the loving balance.
Spice up your sex life:
Never underestimate what a good exciting sex life can do to strengthen your marriage. It may seem a purely physical indulgence but for many it is the only way to experience or express emotional intimacy.
Share your vulnerabilities:
We all know our weaknesses and sharing them with our spouse can help us discipline ourselves and damage control in time with their help. Don’t be guilty of flirting, being attracted to someone it’s ok. What’s not ok is to keep it a secret in these early stages. Such conscious choices lead to bigger secrets and end up in EMA (Extramarital affair). The earlier you share your secrets the lesser the damage.
What you read above are some common ways to avoid indulging in extramarital affairs. These are some practical ways to avoid them. Our psychologist and relationship experts are here to offer personalized guidance in a safe and confidential environment. If you have concerns about your relationship, don’t hesitate to reach out
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